What Should I Do If I Don’t Like My Child’s Friend?
Your child has finally found another kid that they connect with, they have hours of playdate or get-together, and rarely anything terrible happens. They can have an argument or disagreement but handle it themselves and return to normal.
It is a perfect friendship, and you could not have asked for anything better; however, there is a huge “but”… You don’t like this kid. You don’t have anything against children, obviously, but there is something with this particular child that rubs you the wrong way.
What do you do? What can you do? How do you allow this friendship to keep thriving while secretly wanting it to end? What do you do if you don’t like your child’s friend?
Children thrive from boundaries and guidelines. One of the main reason you may not like this child is that they do not follow the rules. Go over the rules and the consequences of what happens if those rules are broken.
Hold your child accountable for both their behavior and that of their friend. You can have another child over, but if they break the rules of “our” house, we will have to limit the number of interactions that the two of you have.
In many situations, less is more, and that is a good thing. Limiting the amount of time, they spend together may decrease the chances of getting into too much mischief.
Talk to the other parent! The other parent may not know that their child is misbehaving. Do not volunteer parenting advice or suggestions this may not end up well.
Focus on talking about how great the children get along but they both sometimes end up getting into situations, and you want to figure out how to limit those negative exchanges when they are together. Confront the case together, be a team.
While the top four are suggestions that would decrease negative interactions sometimes non-will work and you have to accept it. Do pros and cons on whether you need even to address it.
While childhood friendship is a beautiful thing, they often go through different seasons.
This friendship may be a friend that your child will learn something from and then move on or child that you will end up liking in the future, with so many developmental changes ahead you never know.
What If Other Parents Don’t Like My Child?
Now here is the scenario reversed. What if YOU have that child that hardly gets invited and they only have ONE friend, and somehow you get the feeling that your child is not always welcomed at their best friend home.
What do you do with that? What if other parents don’t like your child?
Before your child goes to someone house, make sure you speak to them about how each home is different. While you may be okay with a more lenient household, be mindful that others may not believe in such a thing.
2. Offer your Home
It is less stressful to worry about whether or not your child is misbehaving if the get-together is at your house. While crazy mom Beatrice may freak out over eating crackers upstairs in the playroom, this may not be a big deal to you.
Talk to the other parent and ask how are things went when your child leaves that house. It’s important to know if your child has been misbehaving.
4. Be Considerate
Always be on time for pick-up. While the idea of your kid having the time of their life is over joyful to you, and you may want to let them play a little while longer this is NOT a good idea. Be respectful of the other household and other people’s time.
5. Offer Help
While the whole point is to do the least amount of work by sending your kid elsewhere offering your help with clean up may help ease the discomfort of another. Show up early and make sure your child reorganized the space as best as they can.