How Can I Validate My Child’s Emotions?
Let’s talk about preventing emotional outbursts at home.
So, I’m betting if you’re interested in this video, you’ve got a middle-schooler or a high-schooler at home.
You might find yourself trying to have conversations with them and then, all of a sudden, they lose their minds. They start to yell, throw their hands up in the air, and leave the room.
What I’m going to teach you right now is a really simple way to validate their feelings.
When they come in, instead of starting to problem solve immediately, which makes a child enraged, validate their feelings.
This is a form of neurobiological perspective. Kids have emotions that get stuck on the right side of their brain.
So, if you say to them “wow, you’re really mad about that,” that actually gives them permission to feel mad.
Once validated, they can let that emotion go and use the left side of their brain, which is used for problem-solving.
A lot of times when parents say, “wow, you’re really mad at your teacher for doing that,” they’ll say, “yeah, I am really mad!”
That gives them permission to feel that way and then move on to problem-solving.
For example, they might say “I’m mad, but it probably was my fault because of ‘so and so’…”
So, validate your kids’ feelings and you’ll get a lot farther!