With the day-to-day responsibilities of adulting, it is easy to neglect both marriage and spouse. That is why date night is critical to your marriage and mental well-being. Here are a few reasons why you should consider dating your spouse!

Why Date Night Is Critical to Your Marriage:

Date Night Is a Great Break from Parenting

As a parenting coach, I should be the last person telling you that you need a break from parenting, but you do! To be positive and continue to nurture a healthy relationship with your children, you need to take a break from parenting.

Taking time to unwind and relax away from children gives you the energy required to continue parent effectively without burnout.

Date Night Offers and Opportunity to Get to Know Your Spouse Again

How well do you still know your spouse? I do not mean their stress level or the horrible day they had at work. Really how well do you know them?

A date night offers a chance to get to know each other all over again. It presents an opportunity to be engaged in each other lives.

When you started dating it was all about getting to know that person, their favorite drink, color, food, places to travel. You may know the answer to these things now, but it doesn’t mean there isn’t new information to learn.

Going on Dates Keeps You Connected with Your Spouse

Being a parent consumes almost all aspects of your marriage. The day to day management of children and working does not reflect a balance for some couples. Date night offers the opportunity to stay connected emotionally with your spouse.

Keep the conversation about children out of date night. It is a time for the two of you to reconnect, don’t make it a catch-up time on parenting or household responsibility.

Double Up with Other Couples

Invite another couple to date night. It gives you the chance to team up in a non-threatening way. The conversation will less likely be about children if another couple is involved.

Invite people that you would like to get to know more or one that you do not get a chance to hang-out with it outside of playdates.

Date nights are essential to your marriage and mental well-being. With the day-to-day responsibilities of adulting, it is easy to neglect both marriage and spouse. Take a break from parenting! Be creative and trade ideas of what your spouse would like to do for date night.

Dressing Up is a Break From the Norm

I have two styles.

Style number one: The Mom, which is yoga pants and some work out gear (I don’t work out), and some t-shirt with either a comic book character or UF shirt (GO Gators).

Style number two: Work Lady, the dressier version of myself, the casual business style of dress pants and nice shirts, or a cute outfit.

None of these styles benefits my marriage. When we have date nights, it gives me a chance to dress up and be creative or sexy and to wear non-sensible shoes. It’s a break from the norm that both my husband and I enjoy.

Make It Fun and Cost-Effective

The typical dinner is easy, but make it exciting and different. You can do a couple’s massages, watch a movie, attend a show, go for a walk.

You do not have to spend money to have fun. There are plenty of free or inexpensive things that you can do. Go to a park and watch a free concert, or just go out for ice cream.

Be creative and trade ideas of what your spouse would like to do. Do a wine tasting at a winery or brewery, go Kayaking or miniature golf.

Make the end of the night exciting by staying up talking or check into a hotel for the evening. Go to a late-night bar or go dancing. Reciprocate between what you like and what your spouse likes.

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Bea Moise, M.S.
Beatrice Moise, M.S., BCCS., is a Mom to Awesome Jacob and Marvelous Abigail. Board Certified Cognitive Specialist, Parenting Coach at Southeastpsych.com. Creator of A Child Like Mine, LLC created to help parents of children with behavior issues and unique needs on the Autism Spectrum. She is a writer and has a monthly blog in Charlotte Parent Magazine called Thrive. Follow her on twitter @Bea_EsioM & @AChildLikeMine


  1. I really like how you said that date nights can help you stay emotionally connected to your spouse. My wife and I have been busy during the Spring, but we will have more free time during the Summer. We will be sure to go out and eat or participate in other fun activities.

    • Dean,

      Thank you for the feedback. We sometime will neglect the emotional connection that we share as a couple. The summer is a perfect time to reconnect with activities, something as simple as taking a walk around the neighborhood together can maintain a positive and strong bond between couples.

  2. It’s great that this article explains how date nights help spouses get to know each other better. This could be done through conversation and learning more about the entertainment and activities the other enjoys. When planning a date night, it would probably help to look online to learn about the entertainment and events in your area to figure out what you’ll both enjoy.

    • You are correct. Doing some research together is yet another way to make date night more meaningful and bring another level of togetherness to make the evening enjoyable for both of you.

  3. Bea, these tips are great, and not only for parents. Even childless couples get caught up in their day-to-day routines and forget to make time for themselves. This is a useful article that’s an important reminder for everyone 🙂


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