In this episode of the Psych Bytes podcast, Dr. Craig Pohlman and Jennifer Fights, LPC, talk about gaslighting, narcissism, and The Cluster of F**ks. Don’t forget to subscribe to the Psych Bytes podcast so you get notified whenever we drop a new episode!
For more information on gaslighting, continue reading our article.
What is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is defined as psychologically manipulative behavior used by someone attempting to undermine another person’s reality by denying facts, discounting the obvious, and invalidating the other person’s feelings.
Gaslighters use tactics such as persistent denial, misdirection, and lying to destabilize their victims and delegitimize the victim’s beliefs. People often gaslight to stay in control of a situation or avoid truly dealing with the feelings of the other person or conflict they deem uncomfortable.
Examples of Gaslighting
Now that you understand what gaslighting is, it’s time to become masterful at identifying it in real-world interactions. Psych Central has a phenomenal article on common gaslighting phrases. Some of these phrases include, but are not limited too…
- You’re crazy. You have issues.
- You’re being insecure.
- You’re too sensitive.
- It was just a joke. Loosen up.
- You need to let it go.
- Why are you bringing this up?
- You’re the problem, not me.
- I never said/did that.
- You’re imagining things.
- You totally made that up.
Gaslighting in Relationships
A healthy relationship can be one of the most exciting and fulfilling aspects of our lives. Most adults desire an intimate relationship with a loving partner, but not all relationships are easy.
That’s why it’s important to talk about gaslighting in relationships.
In this podcast, we discuss the importance of recognizing gaslighting and what to do if your spouse or significant other is gaslighting you.